in Sane we trust

my uncle passed away the 2nd of ramadhan.i felt grief later on,but when my sis told me the news i felt nothing at 1st...post-traumatized shock maybe.the fact that i lacked proper emotions at that time was quite unacceptable to myself.indeed my late uncle was close to my family.i've paid my respect by reading surah yassin and recite appropriate prayers for arwah.is it that i was too far away(penang-selangor)that i was detached from the emotions surrounding a death??i don't know...it really bothers me.i didn't even shed any tears at all.how can i felt little grief for a death in my own family?it pains me that i can't even offer a word of comfort to my father for the lost of his brother.
al-fatihah to arwah...may Allah bless his soul.